Twenty Seven up and even after 9862nd day it looks like it was just yesterday that we tied the proverbial knot. Every year when I sit down to pen these words of genuine gratitude, I only end up thinking (and concluding) that this amazing soul deserves much much more and no amount of blog space is enough to describe what she is!
Happy 27th Anniversary Aparna (Yeah! Pat yourself on your back, you cohabited with this guy for 27 long years) – What is a milestone for many including me, for you it just another day – undiminishing enthusiasm and amazingness as it was on 31st March 1991, every day, & today.
Surely it is not like those Mills and Boon books kind of romance, but I can honestly declare it as no less than that. Every moment of lives we spent together (and in rare occasions when we were apart due to our travels) has been special and it would be a BIG LIE! if I were to claim it was due to me. Thank you for everything. A lot of things have been achieved – Academically, Professionally and Socially too. Your role in each it has been beyond measure atleast in those bits that has turned out great in our lives. Just to give you an example – Our lovely gems Akhila and Ashrit. The way you have chiselled them into a wonderful sculpture – it is beyond words. What a gift they turned out to be, thanks to you.
I heard a friend quoting “A man who finds a wife, finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord” Well!!! I am the proof of the one who has been bestowed this favour (or should I say it is an understatement?)
This piece and our lives would never be complete without offering our Pranams and Gratefulness to Pujya Gurudev Sri Sri Ravi Shankar for His Presence and influence in our lives. He is yet another who has bestowed His unconditional love and affection and Blessings on us perpetually and been inspiring us to cross of oceans of challenges smilingly.
Happy Anniversary! You are the BEST Thing that happened to me! This is also My song selected for today. Thoughtfully presented by Ray LaMontagne – just for me
And since we are off to a Temple – an early surprise celebration by the Kids who enliven our lives
The other highlight – Barring just 2 years out of 27 (including our Wedding day) Lord Varuna has unfailingly showered (literally) His Blessings on us. Just like it is raining right now
Since there is a huge debate on what actually transpired, My two penny take away from the episode. Thanks to a couple of my friends who summarized an Eventful day.
Red lines are my Two-penny opinion
Pujya Gurudev Sri Sri Ravi Shankar ji ’s approach
Souhard se dono samuday paas aye. Mandir bhi bane aur masjid bhi bane thodi door.
On why Ram Mandir should be built:
Ayodhya is not place of faith for Muslims. Islam does not allow worship at a disputed site. We cannot make Lord Rama to be born in another place. This is a golden opportunity for communities to cement their good relationship. Some people are opposing. They want this problem to be alive. We don’t want one more conflict. Sensible people agree on this. In the 10 lakh temples of the country, all the Imams could be invited and honored. Similarly they would honour the priests,
Isn’t this vision of Sri Sri, the core of Sanatana Dharma?Isn’t Sri Sri is creating space and opportunity for both communities to celebrate.
On why Sri Sri is mediating: Every responsible citizen should be involved in the issue which concerns the society, why should a spiritual leader like Sri Sri not be involved? He is respected as a neutral party by ppl on all sides. He has no vested interest but only the interest of nation at heart. If any one can, it is only Towering personality like Him who can.
The court said that you sit together and move the issue, which was sidelined. I am not looking for any credit, I am ok to put those who are looking for credit in the forefront. I am not here for credit or for insult. I don’t need political support in this, because i am speaking with people. The judiciary would be the happiest if the issue is solved out of court, its a burden for them to solve this issue in court. kisi ne mujhe ye nahi kaha AOL shuru karo. Waise hi ye bhi apni prerna se kar rahe hain
On creating common buildings like hospitals
ASI has proved that this is Birth place of lord Ram. The disputed site has no religious significance for the other people. By and large The Muslim community is large hearted and they have supported Sri Sri’s initiative in large numbers. For the sake of peace and unity in the country lets work to make a win win situation for all.
On possible future scenarios
Land goes to Hindus, Muslims will feel defeated and their faith in judicial system will be shaken. Bitterness will increase. (Hasn’t this been proven so many time over – Shaking of faith is the minimum, on the contrary there would be hatred and opposition to the implementation too – Shah Bano,, Triple Talaq etc are proof enough)
Land goes to Muslims, there will not be any peace. Do you think they will allow Ram Lalla to be taken from the premises? Do you think such a judgement will be implemented? Quran injunction says, no Namaaz can be offered at a place of conflict. So nobody will offer prayers there. Will it not be a case where I relish denial of a facility to someone even if I don’t get it?
If Allahabad Court decision is repeated, then a Hindu temple and Mosque will be built. This is continue the fear of conflict forever. After 50 and 100 years, there will still be a chance for conflict
On opposition to his mediation:
Kehne wale bohot kuch kahenge. Bohot logon ka astitva sangharsh par hai. Kuch log bhadkaav bhashan pe hi vishwas karte hain. Unpe desh nahi chal sakta. Desh aman chahta hai.
Gurudev ko kichad uchalne walon ki parva nahi karni chahiye.
Always there will be some people who would like to create disturbance in the country. There are just a few people who do not see sense, or even they see sense they are not agreeing because of their personal gains.
Here is what Pujya Shankaracharya Jayendra Saraswathi ji says about Ayodhya Ram Temple Resolution. Out of court is the only way – Any solution from the Political Class or throught courts will end up in difficulties for both sides
For the records – Here are the Tweet clarifications from Gurudev Sri Sri (Personally I felt it is not required, because either way they would twist) Click on the screenshot to read the original tweet on Twitter.
As we complete 26 years of this blissful journey of togetherness – a journey that we began as 23 year olds, with joy in our heart and hopes in our minds, someone asked me why I write (by now the customary) blogs acknowledging her gracious (for me grateful) presence. I have so many reasons to do that.
Definitely not for this!!!
Firstly, I got to acknowledge that she deserves much more than whatever even the best of my words and language that I possess can ever express and secondly, considering the alternative – a Card – Sorry! that would be a pathetic replacement to what I want to really say (also there is not enough space on it to write these or for photographs). This is also done to let the world know that this journey is possible even in these days. Finally, I also write to remind some folks who would have forgotten that it is a special day for us, to wish and bless us to continue this journey into eternity.
“Only spiritual elevation can take away loneliness, not soul mates” said, Founder of Art of Living and our Gurudev Sri Sri Ravi Shankar ji. Yet He blessed us all along to make it easy for me to elevate myself spiritually taking away my loneliness but also ensured that soul mate made it even more easier.
Those who know us would congratulate me, but they would agree and credit Aparna for this wonderful journey – that could well be an example of what & how it is supposed to be – Woman who is fixed, robust and capable of restoring any fallen ones around her. Someone who with lot of sacrifice, unknown to all of us, ensured that “Life is a celebration” not just for the immediately family but to the extended family (Let me assure you that it is definitely not a small one). This was evident just 2 days ago, on the Ugadi day – Painstakingly prepared fares, everything home made with a touch of love (that can never come when eating out) – egging us to do this or do that to ensure that guests simply feel WOW and want more! This has been the feature everyday of the 26 years that Aparna has embellished my life.
I am sure children wouldn’t disagree that life, without her constant but extremely caring and loving nagging, would never been the same. How much ever they are grown, they are still the 1-5 year olds in her eyes and thoughts. Without being overbearing, her care is simply overpowering. Same with her colleagues at work. I am yet to hear someone saying anything “not good” about this wonderful soul, who took up the huge challenge to live with me for 26 long years, bearing all my idiosyncracies (especially when it comes to food) and still working to continue this journey into eternity.
Then we have the extended family – Sindhu, Swathi, Iti, Asha, Meghana, Arun, Raghu, Yathin, Vidya, Giri, Binoy, Nagesh, Leela, Parinith, Rijina and this list goes on… who also bear the brunt of her love and care.
For those who want to know how it works! This journey comes with lots of ups and downs. My confession upfront! It is definitely she who goes more than half way to make it work. It is more “up” for her than me. It is more down for me than her. So all credits to her there! There are many things that we may not see eye to eye, that keeps cropping up again and again. We chose to work around those differences, accept those differences and lived with them. After a couple of years, we both gave up our attempts to change the other (though we haven’t stopped trying, we don’t insist that the other person changes to meet our expectations). This concept of marriage is what amazed our friends from Germany (Ulrich, Steffen, Tobias and many others) who worked in our office (Crompton Greaves Limited) as interns, during the initial years of our marriage. I had only one thing to tell them – In India, we don’t change our spouses – we change ourselves. Not so easy but we grow up seeing our parents making extreme degree of surrender of one’s compromisable principles, mindset and also beliefs to keep a marriage going and keep it blissful. I added, “We got to work to make it Work“
A few months later in a contemplative mood, she asked how is it that our relationship of absolute opposite working – we only looked at each other, grinned and then picked up another argument to keep this relationship firing. It got to be a miracle. Did we believe in miracle? No! We don’t just believe, we rely on it (as Sri Sri spoke during one of His discourse). Our journey is a living example. And I would be claiming false credit if I say it is because of me. Thanks my Dear! For making all those philosophy work in our case.
Happy Anniversary, dearest Aparna. You are simply the best. As I wrote in one of the earlier pieces, “You Complete Me”
Loads and Loads of love!
Decided to gift ourselves a Pilgrimage Trip to Tirupati to express our gratitude to the Lord for this amazing present. Sharing some pictures of the journey so far
Signing of as always with a song chosen just for you