Cannot help but rewind to this day 26 years ago each time we reach this day on the calendar. It has been a exhilarating experience and a day of Gratitude reinforced each time to the Divine for He chose us to be your parents.
From that helpless tiny baby to an ‘I can do anything’ independent gem you are now, what a journey it has been! I recall the joy of that moment when the little gem was carefully gift wrapped and handed over to me and I will never tire looking at this photograph, again and again. Those blissful days when you snuggled in my arms are unforgettable. It is never easy task to express that feeling in words. You need to experience it to feel it.
They say, No father can realise the meaning of life or the world until he has children and once he has, everything changes and life is never the same again. When we have a daughter like Divya, it is doubly so. World becomes such a beautiful place to live and if you have any doubts on this, come and see it through my eyes.
Now for some Gyan 😛 without which I can never finish anything. Your large heartedness is a known thing and I am proud of what you have done for the society thus far. First thing I would like to say is to Love your self like no one else. Remember, as I keep telling people around me, you can never love anyone else if you don’t love yourself first. I learnt it along in my journey and I guess this is something you don’t have to live through all over to realise and hence this suggestion.
Never accept disrespect whoever it is from, including me of course. If you sell yourself low, society seeks a discount and bids even lower. You are far more precious than what you think. People will run you down and get close again, but one thing I learnt proudly from you is that fact that you lived with an unknown realisation that, you had yourself, at the end of the day, evident by how easily you forgave folks who roughshod you and moved on. That is something I am proud of quoting as a lesson for myself and others.
As you grow up, priorities change and many obvious things are overlooked. Remember! Love of all of us is always there, come rain or sun. Obviously you know this. I was proud when you took upon your broad shoulders to accompany your brother abroad all by yourself to settle him into University and the long emotional solo return journey that you strongly embarked upon. Let me confess, it would have been next to impossible for me to do that and taking up that humongous responsibility required a lovely soul like you. Be brave and count on family’s love to tide over any choppy seas and keep the boat sailing.
And I had to share a wonderful WA Family group message and the response your brother gave. That is what makes the family click. Ability to laugh under any circumstance. God Bless us all! And touch wood, we will retain that ability to laugh at, and with ourselves forever.
And thanking the Divine once again for the wonderful gift that you are for us. Happy Birthday dear one. Words alone are not enough to express my happiness that you are celebrating another year of your life! My wish for you on your birthday is that you are, and will always be, happy and healthy!
Happy birthday & Wish you many more to come, from all of us
Chase your dreams but always know the road that’ll lead you home again. Go on, take on this whole world. But to me you know you’ll always be, my little girl.
This post comes in the wake of recent medical incidents of some sincere seekers, who have been doing/done everything that materially every Jigyasu is expected to do – Sadhana, Seva, Satsangs etc. Yet when some tragedy or misfortune strikes, the obvious doubt is on the efficacy of God/Guru. The faith is terribly shaken and trust flies out of the window. Everything associated becomes a suspect and sadly some may even conclude on the futility of the spiritual journey itself.
Firstly, as Pujya Gurudev Sri Sri Ravi Shankar ji of The Art of Living says – Everyone dies, Good person dies, Bad person dies; Doctors die, Patients die; Rich die, Poor die; King dies so also subjects; So one thing that is truth at the time of birth, known to everyone is that one day a person born has to die some day. Yet there is a sense of non-acceptance of this irrefutable and unchangeable truth. Immediate response of the near ones (I experienced it twice, when I lost my Father and recently my Elder brother, both departed quite young by today’s standards) Our trust and faith was shaken terribly (thankfully for not very long). Why us? is the obvious question (as if it is ok, if this were to happen to someone else). The first response was What is the point in worshiping God or having a Guru when they “ditch” us like this? (when they are actually carrying us to bear this pain) . Why couldn’t they stop this? (the inevitable truth is forgotten). Now, cut to the next set of examples
We had examples of some ardent followers in the path, who never missed a day’s Sadhana, did their Seva at every opportunity presented, regular organised and conducted Satsangs, who fell seriously sick (I have been witnessing this in very close quarters in the recent months, one as late as 3 days ago in a Satsang). Again the faith of near ones and many observers was challenged. What is the point of all the 3Ss (Sadhana, Seva and Satsang) if they fall seriously sick (at the time of occurrence, some were even written off and even indicated by doctors that if they survived they would be vegetables all their lives. Much to the surprise of the thorough Medical professional and naysayers, they recovered miraculously. Certainly, I believe it is due to power of collective blessings just as those very rational Engineers and Medical Professionals who were around concede to it. To some who asked me, why did it happen in the first place, my answer as an ordinary mortal – it could have been worse!
We often mistake our intense craving for our intense faith and try to manipulate the divine to fulfill our desires and get our work done. If you have faith in God only for the sake of having your desires fulfilled, then that will simply not work.
Which is greater: God, or your desire? Just think about it. You want to use God like currency for transactions, and you want to do the same with your Guru. Faith and devotion are needed to help you rise higher in life and go deeper within yourself.
Difficulties and unpleasant times come in everyone’s life. Is there anyone who does not have problems in their life? Lord Krishna faced so many obstacles during his lifetime. Lord Rama also faced many problems in his life. Mahatma Gandhi also faced many hurdles in his life. So difficulties come and go in life. When your faith and devotion remain intact and unshaken during those turbulent times, then you do not feel the unpleasantness of those situations. Faith becomes your anchor during these difficult times and keeps you steady.
On a completely dark night, even a flickering lamp can help you find your way and keep walking forward. But if you try to extinguish that very source of light, then it is no good. People who do this then try other ways to handle difficult situations, such as drinking alcohol, etc. Faith is a great wealth and gives you strength. Just because a few small things did not go in your favor, it does not mean that you should make your faith so fragile and delicate that it breaks every now and then.
That is why I said that it is good that you feel your faith is becoming weak and failing because something you wanted did not happen. It is alright. Eventually you will put your faith into someone or something.
Faith that is built in such a way surely will shake at some point of time. Every time your faith shakes, your devotion will be renewed from within once again. Truth never fails or gets shaken. True faith remains unshaken regardless of everything that happens. That which shakes is just some small belief at a very superficial level. It is your own expectations and desires which shake you
Reason is reeling in the known. Faith is moving in the unknown. Reason is repetition. Faith is exploration. Reason is routine. Faith is adventure.
They are completely opposite, yet an integral part of life. Not having faith itself is misery; faith gives instant comfort. While reasoning keeps you sane and grounded, no miracle can happen without faith. Faith takes you beyond limitations. In faith you can transcend the laws of nature but it needs to be pure. Faith is beyond reason, yet you need to have faith in your own reasoning! Faith and reason cannot exist without each other. Every reason is based on some faith. Whenever reason or faith breaks, confusion and chaos prevails which is often a step for growth.
There are two types of faith. Faith out of fear, greed and insecurity; and faith born out of love like the faith between the mother and the child, the Master and disciple. Whereas the faith out of love cannot be broken, faith out of fear and greed is shaky.
An atheist bases himself on reason, and a believer on faith. A believer uses God as an insurance policy! He thinks he is special. In the eyes of God there is no “mine” and “others”; all are the same. An atheist rationalizes to keep his eyes shut to reality. Death shakes them both! When someone close dies, an atheist’s eyes are opened, and a believer’s faith cracks. Only a Yogi – a wise one – remains unshaken. For that person has transcended both reason and faith.
You need a balance between faith and reason.
Cut to the present, in both cases these distrust was soon overcome and life moved on. Back to going on pilgrimage to Sabarimala, for Darshan and blessings of Guru. The unpleasantness was taken in the stride using exactly whatever we lost trust on. We tend to lose faith or tend to distrust the only Truth, God or the Guru that is our real & eternal support, all other kind of supports are fleeting. Even the best of medicine will not work if we don’t trust the doctor and the medicine itself. Remember, Medicine Cures! Faith Heals!
One more learning! Faith and trust doesn’t mean rely on Blessings or healing process solely. Our part of the action is a prerequisite and understanding that just those actions may not guarantee results. We allow the Grace to work through our action by being in a state of Gratitude.
Come what may! Keep your faith up! It will hold you up!
At the risk of sounding repetitive (since nothing has changed but it only got better), I start off this piece with almost same lines I have penned earlier
This is to the one who has colored up our lives for 25 years, a miracle who never ceased to be miraculous
As it happens every year, I am experiencing something called Blog-Fear (like Stage-Fear) when I thought of writing a few of my thoughts for this wonderful Angel of our lives – who is “Everything (Akhila)” literally ! It is considered Silver Birthday – but not for us. It is more valuable than Gold or Diamond. Here I go….
On this day 25 years ago, I was handed over a wonderful gift wrapped in woollens, a gift that me as a Father could have ever ask for: I am so proud of the fact that you have become so beautiful within heart and outside it, and you are not just my daughter but also my best friend.
Life was never the same for the entire family. The first Queen of the family after generations of waiting was not only cherished by all, but celebrated. With all those pampering, what I admired in you the ability to keep that head firmly on your shoulders and not getting carried away.
Every moment of the past 25 years has been filled with Joy thanks to whatever you did. Unfair not to mention Vishnu too who enhanced it for the 18 years of them.
What I also love is that love for life that as Gurudev Sri Sri Ravi Shankar ji advised – You “Lived” every moment, not just existed – You grew up, not just aged. In the process, you ensured that you sprayed this perfume of happiness on everyone around you. If in doubt, ask everyone around who were touched by you and the difference you made in their lives. (Just confirm that it is not a blind love of a father, Was all those due to my genes? YES :-P)
Here is a birthday Wish from all of us – we been trying to find the right words to say for quite a while now, but we just could not! So let us leave it at – we love you for whatever you are. We thank the Divine for the wonderful gift we have in our lives. Happy Birthday to the Wonderful Soul, a friend and daughter, sibling, everything.
And both Sindhu Akka and Swathi di also send their hearty wishes (and gifts in person)
Here is my customary song dedicated to you. Reserved it for your 25th (saw this about 5 years back)