To the One, Worth “My Weight” in Gold

Rewinding back to the day 31 years ago, when a great boon was granted by Divine and I could only look up and thank the God for the wornderful. We so badly wanted to break the jinx of no daughters in the family for generations (many even used to say we were cursed family). Not only God fulfilled that wish but what an amazing gift was bestowed upon us. Life was never the same thereafter and it got soaring higher and higher and getting better and better every day. We celebrate you everyday but a bit more on 3rd April for the THE BIGGEST GIIFT we have received.

One of big Favourite Picture

Just over a year ago you presented a promotion of our lives making it even better – making us proud grandparents to another gem. God has been extremely kind. And I am sure there are many more highs with you around. Happy birthday Dearest Divya. Your 31st may not be technically a Golden birthday but it is more than my weight in Gold for all those who know you and were blessed with your presence in their lives.

Promoted to Grandpa

When those first words were uttered, when those firm baby steps were taken (all a bit too early) which you passed on to your child too, it was music to our heart and mind. I distinctly remember those precious moments like it were yesterday. And the maturity you displayed by the age of 7, to take care of Baby brother was just admirable. We are extremely lucky and super-blessed to have you as a part of the extended family, binding everyone together, not just the immediate family despite all the challenges. While the love and affection showered & the extra pampering you deservedly received could easily spoil anyone else, it was great how you kept your head firmly on your shoulders and were responsible at every step. Something that is worth emulating by anyone, of any age.

I admire you for your big heart, your positivity in this crazy negative world, and I am so proud we brought you into this world and raised a person like, to an extent that I don’t have to give up on the world. The best part was fulfilling every bit of your duty and more than just fulfilling, you enjoy doing it – however difficult or preoccupied you seem to be. Time management for anyone especially a new mother is extremely challenging but for a socially hyper-active person like you it would have been next to impossible. But you seem to have the uncanny ability to balance all the requirements and doing it in your impeccable style. Your “ability to listen” with your ears, heart and the mind and not just listen but listen unconditionally. Example galore of how you do it to understand instead of listening to reply. This is something I want to learn and emulate and want many of them who know me (and you) do it copy too.

The biggest gift for any parent, is to have daughter around you and living close to you. I am an extremely fortunate and lucky father to have you as a daugther. If I God were to appear before me and grant me a wish to rewind and let me chart a different course, I would ask Him to bless me the exact journey I had so far with you. Thank you for BEING YOU.

She could get 2-Left Footed me to Dance too

PS: They say Age is just a number. So True….just that in your case it is getting to be quite a high one.

33 years of “US”

They say the 33rd anniversary is the porphyry anniversary, named after the deep purple gemstone. Purple is associated with nobility, which is sort of fitting to this co-passenger of my life, who reigns over me….errr… my heart. Your strength, kindness, and unwavering support has made this journey of blissful togetherness not only last long, but also royal. Happy 33rd to US, Dearest Aparna! As I mentioned earlier in one of my article, looking back I can say that I don’t mind getting stranded on an uninhabited island after a ship wreck if you are around (so that you can keep reminding me that it was my fault 🤪)

To write something year after year has never been difficult since there would always be something new and more to write. One of the greatest virtue is being “Mum” (Pun intended). Being Mum to lovely kids, biological and manasik. And being “Mum” and let all others talk (while you scheme 🤪)

Jokes apart, I repeat once again, I was lucky enough to have been blessed to be married to someone, not whom I can live with but whom I cannot live without. Nothing explains why and how it worked. It just did. God and Guru have been Kind. I have nothing else to say. But for those beginning on this journey, we would like to say, “It is never nor was it ever hunky-dory every moment. We have had our share of travails (but opting out was never even a passing thought). We sailed through, cheering each other up, supported by gems of Kids around us, but sail we did. WE HAD TO WORK TO MAKE THIS WORK” The key word is “We”. And with someone like Aparna around it only made it easier for everyone around.

You may not be the Eternal optimist who always saw the glass half full, instead of half empty but when it needs the most you ensured that anyone around you saw even an empty glass as an over-flowing one.

What an incredible journey of 40 years (informally when I met you first) and 33 as a couple. Ever grateful for being truly a “Better” half. And a song dedicated to you

Happy Double-Nickel Day

Happy 55

Since you are a fan of Numerology and other such sciences, Number 55 represents Independence and Exploration. As if the roller-coaster, adventure of 32 (+7) years out of 55 was not enough of an exploration. 55 is related to positive change, fresh starts, new life adventures, personal growth, spiritual growth, and life lessons that will lead you in a new and exciting direction.

Anyway, I am so glad I entered into your life, of course admitted by you, informally 39 summers ago (and formally 32), which means >71% of your life so far. What a co-passenger you have been in this journey. I am blessed indeed that Divine chose to let go and walk the planet during my time and WITH ME.

Andal and Andal

Happy 55th birthday! I can’t believe it’s been 55 years since you were born. It feels like just yesterday we were young and in love, starting our lives together. We’ve laughed together, cried together, and supported each (more of you supporting) other through thick and thin. You’re my best friend and a lovely mother to Divya and Vishnu.

However the biggest welcome change this birthday apart from being an year older, is promotion to being a Granny. An addition that makes the birthday even more special for sure.

I’m so proud of everything you’ve accomplished in your life. With all the challenges (taking care of pregnant Divya, then seeing through her birthing Anay and then post natal care and taking care of everything else and to complete two professional degrees is not what a normal human can do. You’re an inspiration to me and to everyone who knows you.

I can’t wait to see what the next 55 years bring for us. I know that as long as we’re together, anything is possible. We’ve been together for 32 years now, and I’m still feel as close to you as I was on the day we met.

In it Together – Feast or Famine

As anyone who knows her would vouch, Aparna is the most caring and compassionate person, friendly but firm and always there, no matter what. She is our rock, and we all know that we can always count on her.

She is also the funniest person I know. She always knows how to make me laugh, even when I’m feeling down(when she begins to talk about Astrology). This is what she claims as having a way of making me see the lighter side of life, even in the darkest of times.

Now for the Gift

Someone just told me that since you are completing 55 years, the gift should be Emerald (Green). I thought, why not. You deserve much more than that. So here is a Gold ring with embedded Diamond & Emerald gem, especially for you.

I looked for Bahia Emerald, the largest block of emerald crystals discovered in Bahia, Brazil which has a purity of 1,700,000 carats and worth >$400 million dollars (measly value compared to you). But I was told it is cursed one and lot of disasters happened. So dropped it (you already are married to one).

Behind a successful man…..

And here is my Customary Song Dedication

Since the accent is not so easy to follow, here are the lyrics, So very True, Isn’t it?

Car door slams, it’s been a long day at work
I’m out on the freeway and I’m wondering if it’s all worth
The price that I pay, sometimes it doesn’t seem fair
I pull into the drive and you’re standing there
And you look at me
And give me that come-here-baby smile
It’s all gonna be alright
You take my hand
You pull me close and you hold me tight

And it’s the sweet love that you give to me
That makes me believe we can make it through anything
‘Cause when it all comes down
And I’m feeling like I’ll never last
I just lean on you ’cause baby
You’re my better half

They say behind every man is a good woman
But I think that’s a lie
‘Cause when it comes to you I’d rather have you by my side
You don’t know how much I count you to help me
When I’ve given everything I got and I just feel like giving in
And you look at me
And give me that come-here-baby smile
It’s all gonna be alright
You take my hand
Yeah you pull me close and you hold me tight

And it’s the sweet love that you give to me
That makes me believe we can make it through anything
‘Cause when it all comes down
And I’m feeling like I’ll never last
I just lean on you ’cause baby
You’re my better half

Well, you take my hand
Yeah you pull me close and I understand

It’s the sweet love that you give to me
That makes me believe that we can make it through anything

Oh baby, it’s the sweet love that you give to me
That makes me believe we can make it through anything
‘Cause when it all comes down
And I’m feeling like I’ll never last
I just lean on you ’cause baby
You’re my better half

Oh, oh baby you’re my better half
Oh, hey baby you’re my better half


PS : Significance of Double Nickel: 5 cents is a Nickel and 55 is two 5c next to each other