Towards Silver, Gold and Beyond…

Given another chance to live my life over again, I only wish I would find Aparna sooner, so that I could live with her even longer. Hey Kali! Happy Anniversary to us!

Dearest Aparna, When I tell you you mean a lot I don’t say it out of habit. I say it to remind you that you are the best thing that has ever happened to me. As some wise man said, Love is not gazing into each other’s eyes but both looking out in the same direction – I have to agree that defines what we both are to each other.

Clicked by Vishnu 20 minutes ago  (He ordered this to be used in this Tribute Blog)
Clicked by Vishnu 20 minutes before 31st March 2015  (He ordered this to be used in this Tribute Blog)

As we enter into the 25th year of this amazing journey of togetherness, I can’t but help feeling that it just happened yesterday. 24 years flew past as if it were a mere 24 hours. I hope you recall my promise that day, “Feels great to have found a special person whom I wanted to annoy rest of my life” – You laughed it away then, and now for every moment of 24 years that went past, you realized that I was dead serious 😛

When we keep hearing marriages and relationships breaking down, we always wondered if that is an option at all in the world. Where a year of wedded bliss is considered a humongous achievement, four over a score seem century to many. And reasons for that travels and rests squarely at your door. While many congratulate me on our anniversary, they always credit you Aparna (rightly so) for it.

Why you? As the saying goes MEN ULTIMATELY fall in love with those women who bring out their best qualities and yeah you did that commendably indeed, for me to think beyond you. With the benefit of hindsight, I took a great call considering the grit and determination you displayed, the shoulder of support you lent that made this journey looks so easy. Being of extremely opposite nature where I sometime suspected your inability to express as sign of detachment, and on the other extreme, me a motor mouth and overtly expressing types – We just went on to prove that Opposites Attract.

And the biggest gift – the two lovelies that we begot. What better blessings could anyone imaginably ask for? Jewels that Divya and Vishnu are, adorn the crown of our lives. I have to agree and be thankful to the Divine that took after their mother. Those bed time stories – even when you weren’t keeping very well – the values that you instilled in them, constant bugging and egging them towards perfection; I am sure I would have failed miserably on all the counts there. Thanks for being a great Mother too.

Unforgettable Moments - That defines every moment of our lives
Unforgettable Moments – That defines every moment of our lives

Ever grateful to Pujya Gurudev Sri Sri Ravi Shankar whose blessings made every mountain that we encountered looked like a grain of sand. Thank you Dearest Gurudev for giving us the strength and wisdom to look beyond the obvious and ensuring a smooth sailing even on the roughest seas. Jai Gurudev!!!

Finally! You have come a long long way from the cook who asked if Pressure Cooking rice needs water. Foodies that you are surrounded with acknowledge that today you give Sanjeev Kapoor a run for his money.

Thanks for being you, Grateful for being in our lives. May we travel in this blissful journey for eternity.

Nostalgia - In Chintamani a few months back
For old times sake – In Chintamani 8th Feb 2015

Loads of Love to the one who defined Love by her deed.

Freedom of Expression – A Joke – India’s Daughter Issue

Cross posted from Hindustan Times – who for some inexplicable reasons pull this article down (Second article they are pulling down in recent week). Banning a provocative Documentary is against freedom of  expression, yelled the folks in Main stream Media protagonists. But they stifle Anjali Bhushan’s freedom of Expression by pulling down her version on how the film, India’s Daughter Came about. It has been a litany of lies, deceit and mischief by the BBC Commissioned Hit job with Leslee Udwin playing the ball for them.

Before you read this, please go through what Nirbhaya’s friend who was with her that forgettable evening has to say about the movie. Reconfirms what I said earlier. India’s Daughter has lies & deceits written all over it. The link below takes you to the CNN-IBN Article. Backed it up, just in case they decide to take it down

Nirbhaya’s friend, who was with her on the fateful night, calls ‘India’s Daughter’ a fake film

Read on… the piece in Hindustan Times that was taken down.

Anjali Bhushan, co-producer of Indias’ Daughter, speaks out: Full statement

  • Anjali Bhushan
  • Updated: Mar 07, 2015 05:19 IST
In this file photo from December 22, 2012, protesters gather outside the presidential palace during a protest against the brutal gang rape of a 23-year-old woman on a moving bus in New Delhi. (AP Photo)

 

Make no mistake. Rape is a heinous crime. When public anger over the Nirbhaya incident boiled over, the question which confronted our society was how a human being could be driven to commit acts of such depravity. Although, it is said that the moral compass of all criminals is skewed the brutality of this incident made it necessary from a social viewpoint to examine the question of where such behaviour stems from.

The documentary “India’s Daughter” was therefore conceived to serve a social cause which was unfortunately overshadowed by the self-promoting agenda of my collaborator, Ms. Leslee Udwin. I had fallen out with her by the time that the principle photography of the film was completed and was conveniently excluded from the final edits. Subsequently, her attempt to exploit the subject matter of the documentary in a self-advancing attempt to sensationalize the content has not only brought disrepute to my profession and the country but also resulted in hurting the sentiments of the victims of rape who would invariably be exposed to the film. Granted editorial and journalistic privilege, there is also a particular sensibility that should be a guiding factor as an ethical standard. This is the same sensibility because of which the international media decides against telecasting the brutal immolation of a Jordanian pilot by terrorists. The social message which is the very essence of the film I wanted to make is now lost in the unfortunate controversy which has followed. When one edits several hours of footage, it is this sensibility, suitably deployed, which comes into play. It was this ‘sensibility’ which I was not able to exercise having been prevented by Ms. Leslee Udwin from participating in the post-assembly review of the film. And it was the lack of exercise of this ‘sensibility’ on her part, (having denied herself of my input as an Indian woman), in a cynical attempt to capture eyeballs and headlines which has led to the unfortunate controversy which will continue to cast a shadow on her career as a film maker.

The story does not end here. Regardless of her lack of sensibilities and judgment, Ms. Udwin knowingly and cynically breached the conditions and undertakings under which the permissions were granted. It was clear right at the outset that the permission to shoot the documentary was conditional upon the viewing of the unedited footage and the final cut by the authorities. Having completed the shooting, Ms. Udwin arrogantly refused to comply. On being shown snippets of the film, the authorities at Tihar Prisons had categorically stated that the comments of the convict were objectionable.  The authorities further asked for the full i.e. unedited film to be able to review the same in the proper context. It was reiterated that the film should not be released till it is approved by the prison authorities and the Ministry.

When Ms. Udwin categorically refuted this demand by Tihar Prisons, I was horrified especially since I had repeatedly pleaded with her to comply with all conditions and formalities. Ultimately, in September 2014, I received a letter from Ms. Udwin’s lawyers terminating our agreements. One of the grounds of termination was that my warnings had in fact led to the DG (Prisons) sending a legal notice to her company on the grounds of breach of permissions granted by the jail authorities!

Subsequently, when I accidently stumbled upon the fact that plans to release the documentary were afoot, I was both angry and surprised, since I had been informed that the BBC will not air the documentary until the Supreme Court hearings were over. I immediately proceeded to warn the media houses planning to telecast the film, both about the fact that permission to do so had not been received and also the fact that the matter was still sub judice.

That despite my warnings the documentary, which includes an abominable portrayal of the issue, was still aired is a sad reflection of the triumph of the personal ambition of a producer who valued publicity and international recognition over the social agenda of the entire production.

(This is the full statement of co-producer of controversial documentary “India’s Daughter”. Views expressed are personal)

The google cache of the piece here: (Click on the link)

Just in case it vanishes from the cache, here is the screenshot of the piece too

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Fear or Respect

This tweet of Pujya Gurudev Sri Sri Ravi Shankar ji of The Art of Living Foundation reminded me of a nice story.

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There was this lady who eked out a living working in a country side, who married a Prince of another Kingdom, who by his heredity rights and force of circumstances was bulldozed on to the throne.

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Unfortunately he had an untimely death and the Tyrannic Queen who was by then feared a lot by her Ministers and coterie as also by the citizens for her cruelty, tried to usurp the throne. It did not matter to her that as per the traditions of the kingdom she was not eligible to be the Queen, nor by virtue of her qualifications. But sycophant coterie that she was surrounded by, forced her to make an attempt to hold the reign of this great kingdom. An old sage saw the futility of the attempt which would cause her already infamous background even more damage.

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Alternately, she was suggested to appoint a native proxy, a known sycophant as the King, and get him to rule the kingdom as per her whims.

Dog

This queen had a pet dog, she loved it more than the children – both of whom turned out to be wastrels and no-gooders. She loved the dog so much that every visitor had to treat that with reverence only exceeded by their reverence to her.

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Laws of the nature caught up and the pet dog dies. She organizes a grand funeral and every citizen of the kingdom were in attendance, lest they displease this tyrannical queen – such was the stranglehold she had over them. Eulogies were sung for the dog by the coterie. And Queen was mighty pleased.

Soon after, the queen afflicted by a fatal disease passes away. Surprisingly, since she was not alive to be feared, there was not many to attend her funeral.

Moral: Fear and Respect are not necessarily the same 😛

Disclaimer: Any resemblance of any of the characters, living or dead is not necessarily co-incidental