Time Flew away…It’s Pearl Day

Yes, 3 decades to be precise and so what. With a Pilot like Aparna, it is has been such a delightful flight. Thank you dear one for 30 years of tolerating me with a smile (make it 37 years if we add the years after we met for the 1st time and thank God again, 7 years did not change your mind despite me). I claim the privilege to have met someone at 16 and continued to go on and on forever and here we are batt(l)ing at 30 not out.

Looking back, there are so many things I could talk about. Was it love at first sight (yes, maybe), Did it ever occur that marriage is where we were headed? (I don’t want to answer, I don’t want any injury on 31st March revealing the truth) When did we know we are meant for each other (no idea, and it does not matter – WE ARE TOGETHER AND THAT IS WHAT MATTERS) and here we are. What an amazing Journey it has been and I am sure it shall be for years to come.

When someone asked me if looking into each other’s eyes is Love, I shared a piece I wrote earlier (25th Anniversary) You can read that here Thanks I am Not-a-Philosopher

As I said then and I say that still “ Real love is not looking at each other but looking together in same direction”

Is real love looking into each other’s eyes?

And for those young ones who wonder, it has not always been “Flying” – only time flew. We also had our share of challenges which was easily navigated (easily may be exaggeration but it was made to look so easy). That is why I consider myself so lucky. That calming, comforting and reassuring shoulders next to you matters a lot. That is why I always tell people around me, I don’t celebrate Wedding Anniversaries or Birthday, We all Celebrate Her! She is the one who ensures that none of us feel even at the lowest moment that the glass is even half empty (in reality it may be stone dry). That is what she means to my (and all others’ lives)

And the biggest gift to the family was the two gems of our lives – so carefully nurtured and values instilled, it takes a big thing to be a mother to growing up children and a husband to a demanding husband. She fit the role to the T, while she kept the household going in all respects.

So here it is from all of us, Happy Wedding Anniversary Aparna. You are amazing indeed. Thanks for being you.

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I was told by a friend that 30th wedding Anniversary is called the Pearl Anniversary (now you know the significance of the title of this piece). BTW! With a Pearl around, Pearl anniversary should be the name every year. I am sure everyone who knows her would agree with this.

I said this before and I repeat same lines – I have nothing else to add, year after year and after each birthday and wedding anniversary, except to say that it has only got better, like the wine. It has been an amazing journey for me with her presence. As they say in Mechanical Engineering, a perfect fit. People ask me how does it work, the relationship that kept blossoming, the love that multiplied, family and no of extended family getting larger and larger, yet what clicks and where do you find the time to nurture the relationship. My honest answer was “I don’t know! It is her and all credits to her”  For no rhyme or reason, it is simply working well and Thank Gurudev Sri Sri Ravi Shankar ji of the Art of Living and also the Divine who chose to shower infinite blessings on me, by bringing her into my life.

Though Bachelor Boy by Cliff Richards was the rage those days, thank God, I chose to fall in love with this number by Lionel Richie “Always and Forever” (I saved this for today knowing for sure that we will get here and Word! WE GOT HERE INDEED)

You are the Best Thing on each of 9862 Days

Twenty Seven up and even after 9862nd day it looks like it was just yesterday that we tied the proverbial knot. Every year when I sit down to pen these words of genuine gratitude, I only end up thinking (and concluding) that this amazing soul deserves much much more and no amount of blog space is enough to describe what she is!

Happy 27th Anniversary Aparna (Yeah! Pat yourself on your back, you cohabited with this guy for 27 long years) – What is a milestone for many including me, for you it just another day – undiminishing enthusiasm and amazingness as it was on 31st March 1991, every day, & today.

Surely it is not like those Mills and Boon books kind of romance, but I can honestly declare it as no less than that. Every moment of lives we spent together (and in rare occasions when we were apart due to our travels) has been special and it would be a BIG LIE! if I were to claim it was due to me. Thank you for everything. A lot of things have been achieved – Academically, Professionally and Socially too. Your role in each it has been beyond measure atleast in those bits that has turned out great in our lives. Just to give you an example – Our lovely gems Akhila and Ashrit. The way you have chiselled them into a wonderful sculpture – it is beyond words. What a gift they turned out to be, thanks to you.

I heard a friend quoting “A man who finds a wife, finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord” Well!!! I am the proof of the one who has been bestowed this favour (or should I say it is an understatement?)

This piece and our lives would never be complete without offering our Pranams and Gratefulness to Pujya Gurudev Sri Sri Ravi Shankar for His Presence and influence in our lives. He is yet another who has bestowed His unconditional love and affection and Blessings on us perpetually and been inspiring us to cross of oceans of challenges smilingly.


Happy Anniversary! You are the BEST Thing that happened to me! This is also My song selected for today.  Thoughtfully presented by Ray LaMontagne – just for me

And since we are off to a Temple – an early surprise celebration by the Kids who enliven our lives

The other highlight – Barring just 2 years out of 27 (including our Wedding day) Lord Varuna has unfailingly showered (literally) His Blessings on us. Just like it is raining right now

Working to make it Work!

As we complete 26 years of this blissful journey of togetherness – a journey that we began as 23 year olds, with joy in our heart and hopes in our minds, someone asked me why I write (by now the customary) blogs acknowledging her gracious (for me grateful) presence. I have so many reasons to do that.

Definitely not for this!!!

Firstly, I got to acknowledge that she deserves much more than whatever even the best of my words and language that I possess can ever express and secondly, considering the alternative – a Card – Sorry! that would be a pathetic replacement to what I want to really say (also there is not enough space on it to write these or for photographs). This is also done to let the world know that this journey is possible even in these days. Finally, I also write to remind some folks who would have forgotten that it is a special day for us, to wish and bless us to continue this journey into eternity.

“Only spiritual elevation can take away loneliness, not soul mates” said, Founder of Art of Living and our Gurudev Sri Sri Ravi Shankar ji. Yet He blessed us all along to make it easy for me to elevate myself spiritually taking away my loneliness but also ensured that soul mate made it even more easier.

Those who know us would congratulate me, but they would agree and credit Aparna for this wonderful journey – that could well be an example of what & how it is supposed to be – Woman who is fixed, robust and capable of restoring any fallen ones around her. Someone who with lot of sacrifice, unknown to all of us, ensured that “Life is a celebration” not just for the immediately family but to the extended family (Let me assure you that it is definitely not a small one). This was evident just 2 days ago, on the Ugadi day – Painstakingly prepared fares, everything home made with a touch of love (that can never come when eating out) – egging us to do this or do that to ensure that guests simply feel WOW and want more! This has been the feature everyday of the 26 years that Aparna has embellished my life.

I am sure children wouldn’t disagree that life, without her constant but extremely caring and loving nagging, would never been the same. How much ever they are grown, they are still the 1-5 year olds in her eyes and thoughts. Without being overbearing, her care is simply overpowering. Same with her colleagues at work. I am yet to hear someone saying anything “not good” about this wonderful soul, who took up the huge challenge to live with me for 26 long years, bearing all my idiosyncracies (especially when it comes to food) and still working to continue this journey into eternity.

Then we have the extended family – Sindhu, Swathi, Iti, Asha, Meghana, Arun, Raghu, Yathin, Vidya, Giri, Binoy, Nagesh, Leela, Parinith, Rijina and this list goes on… who also bear the brunt of her love and care.

Sindhu, Vishnu, Aparna, Swati, Me, Iti and Divya On Ugadi Day

Vidya, Vishnu, Aparna, Me, Yathin, Giri and Divya On Ugadi Day

For those who want to know how it works! This journey comes with lots of ups and downs. My confession upfront! It is definitely she who goes more than half way to make it work. It is more “up” for her than me. It is more down for me than her. So all credits to her there! There are many things that we may not see eye to eye, that keeps cropping up again and again. We chose to work around those differences, accept those differences and lived with them. After a couple of years, we both gave up our attempts to change the other (though we haven’t stopped trying, we don’t insist that the other person changes to meet our expectations). This concept of marriage is what amazed our friends from Germany (Ulrich, Steffen, Tobias and many others) who worked in our office (Crompton Greaves Limited) as interns, during the initial years of our marriage. I had only one thing to tell them – In India, we don’t change our spouses – we change ourselves. Not so easy but we grow up seeing our parents making extreme degree of surrender of one’s compromisable principles, mindset and also beliefs to keep a marriage going and keep it blissful. I added, “We got to work to make it Work

A few months later in a contemplative mood, she asked how is it that our relationship of absolute opposite working – we only looked at each other, grinned and then picked up another argument to keep this relationship firing. It got to be a miracle. Did we believe in miracle? No! We don’t just believe, we rely on it (as Sri Sri spoke during one of His discourse). Our journey is a living example. And I would be claiming false credit if I say it is because of me. Thanks my Dear! For making all those philosophy work in our case.

Happy Anniversary, dearest Aparna. You are simply the best. As I wrote in one of the earlier pieces, “You Complete Me”

Loads and Loads of love!

Decided to gift ourselves a Pilgrimage Trip to Tirupati to express our gratitude to the Lord for this amazing present. Sharing some pictures of the journey so far

A friend whom we met exactly 2 months ago in same place

Lady of the Day!

Kanipakkam Vinayaka Temple

Kanipakkam Vinayaka Temple

Kanipakkam Vinayaka Temple

Kanipakkam Vinayaka Temple

Kanipakkam Vinayaka Temple

Our Meal 🙂

Srinivasa Mangapuram

Srinivasa Mangapuram

Kapaleshwara Temple, Tirupati

Signing of as always with a song chosen just for you