Criticism – Taker gets it

 

My next story. For me (see PS) it is a Oriental Buddhist story irrespective of what the world says. Football of other’s opinion.

On one of his globe trotting expeditions, Buddha and a couple of his disciples reached a village a hot summer afternoon begging for alms. Remember that He had to beg for his living (as was the practice). Walking they reached a hut with the door that was slightly ajar. They could hear a lady who was pretty hassled trying to put a crying baby to sleep, with smell of something burnt on the cooking on the chulha (stove), washed clothes to be hung on the lines for drying and so on. The monks addressed the lady, begged for alms. She apparently did not hear this and the monks raised their pitch and the lady of the house came out in a fit of rage and gave the monk a piece of her mind…”You fit for nothing fellows….go and beg elsewhere and I am hassled as it is and dont need any more of troubles like you etc etc and she went on and on and verbally abused them to an extent when the disciples were getting really worked up. Ultimately she just turned them away. In those days, it was considered duty of every household to serve the monks who come begging for alms. The disciples were very surprised to find that the Master as usual remained stoic with a serene smile on his face all along. So who were they to react… The monks then came away and proceeded on their way toward some other home where they could expect some alms.


The disciples could not control any longer and one of them asked, “O Master!!! That wretched lady insulted you no ends and still you dont bother. Why is it that you never reacted? I am boiling inside with anger and if you permit me, would like to go back and return the words that she gave us and more”

In reply, the Master gave the Kamandal(a bowl) to the disciple which the disciple dutifully took from the Master.

Master asked him, “Where is the Kamandal?

Disciple replied, “It is with me”

Master : “Why is it with you?”

Disciple : “Because you gave it to me”

Master: “No…. not because I gave it to you, because you took it when I gave it to you.

The Master then replied, “Similarly, I dont have anything to return to the lady since I never took anything from her, If you still feel that you took something from her, go and return by all means

The words of this story is mine so may not be very “Vikram Seth”ish or “Jeffery Archer”ish but I guess it conveys what I intend to state here.

The lesson that we learn from Buddha’s response is that – “NO ONE CAN INSULT YOU WITHOUT YOUR PERMISSION”. It’s only when you internalize the insult that you feel bad. Why should someone else’s opinion kill you (kill you internally I mean)

Listen to Guruji Sri Sri Ravishankar (follow HIM @SriSri on Twitter) talk on OPINIONS and their worth In a nutshell, Guruji’s take on Opinions – it is not worth a tinker’s damn and not worth the ink and paper it is written with…. ha ha ha…. (these are not his words, He is never this curt or brusque)

PS:

With due respects to the Americans who happen to read this post, I wish to say that, Like every good thing in this world – the saying “NOBODY CAN CRITICIZE ME WITHOUT MY PERMISSION” is being hijacked and attributed it to Eleanour Roosevelt. Which is so obvious by the irrelevance of the context in which she is supposed to have made this statement.I keyed in this statement into websearch string just before posting it and was astounded to find this attributed to her albeit in a different context

Emptiness

Got back to my karma bhoomi, Chennai this morning. The best part of the drive is naturally beautiful landscapes and thanks to the Ex-PM Vajpayee, this road is a part of Golden Quadrilateral and worth the toll (4 in total) that we pay. I more than make this up in terms of time saved and fuel burnt too (4 1/2 hours drive with a loo break of about 10 minutes added in). Wondering why is it that I tire easier while returing from than while driving to Bangalore. Hey! no one need to explain the reasons. But a big emptiness is a result each time I return back. Especially the visits which includes lot of visits to Ashram.

It was amazing Christmas and New Year Eve – very different from my usual ones. Spent 2 days with who else but the guide and the Master in HIS presence. Cant help posting my report for both the days here –

25th December 2006

It was Christmas Party(an excuse for us to celebrate a birthday – Thanks Jesus!) very unlike the previous one of very many years. Gurudev was scheduled to be in The Ashram to celebrate Christmas with all of us and the festive mood set in early 25th Morning from the special breakfast which was indicative of things to come during the day. Yummm….delicious breakfast and then eagerly awaited Arrival of our beloved Guruji. The whole place was packed and it was a riot of colors predominantly red (Santa Caps, Red Jackets etc) and of course what is Christmas without that fat, jolly good Santa Claus. Art-Excel, YES, YES2 and YES+ course participants boys and girls brought in the required gaiety and mood which was nothing but JOLLY all the way. As an icing to this festive cake, lot of International Courses’ participants started landing in Ashram giving this Christmas in Ashram a truly International Flavour. The moment everyone eagerly awaited for weeks arrived and HE arrived! The air in Ashram resounded with the Jai Gurudev!!! and it was a treat to the ears. With his characteristic swaying and waving, he got down from the car and walked through – for everyone there it was the best Christmas Gift – proximity and presence of the Master. Gurudev then urged everyone to leave and have their lunch which was a great treat again. The Christmas tree in front of Kashyapa was tastefully decorated with lights, festoons, bells, stars and gifts 😉 Amphitheatre decorated even better (in fact acknowledged by Guruji during the Satsang with a congratulatory message to the volunteer team who decorated the amphitheatre).
The amphitheatre was getting filled up by the moment and by the time the Satsang got underway, the place was packed. The evening began with a nice rendition of Gowri Nandana, followed by Guru Narayana by Sahil. Next came Har Har Bole Shankara and in the middle of the song, in walked Guruji to the electrifying applause of the whole crowd. It was a sight to behold, an unforgettable Christmas for anyone present there in Ashram. He joined rendering Jai Jai Jai Devi Jagadamba. Subsequently on popular demand, Guruji rendered Madhava Madhusudhana, Yadava Yadunandana. It is amazing, indescribable feeling whenever HE sings this song. This was followed by a percussion performance by students of our Ayurveda college. This number that they performed had earlier won them a 2nd prize in the University cultural fete. It was a lovely performance which deserved the prize (maybe the first). It was wisdom time and in response to a question, Guruji says, Celebration happens when the mind stops chattering and stops working. Nothing is there to understand about Celebration. Life should be like a Christmas tree, full of lights and gifts for everybody and green for ever.

HOW I wished this evening never ended. The saving grace was that we have a New Year Eve Celebrations with Guruji to look forward to.

Wishing everyone a great Christmas!

31st December 2006

It was a another evening – as usual with all the gaiety and merriment that comes to be associated with any New Year Eve Celebrations. Spirits of non-liquid type flowed all over the place, reverberating with melodious strains of Bhajans. The fading lights never dimished the brightness surrounding the amphitheatre for the dais was filled with a galaxy of stars – led by Guruji along with stars from the Kannada Cine Industry, erstwhile Spin great, Cricketer BS Chandrashekar, HAL’s MD Mr. Saxena, AGM of SBM, Mr. Rao of Wipro who also bought the first ticket for Pranayam Dhyan Shibhir and Thiru Swamy from the ISKCON, Bangalore. It was also a curtain raiser event for the Pranayam Dhyan Shibir scheduled to be held in Bengalooru starting from Feb 5th 2007. The curtain raiser event began with lighting of lamp (incidentally the lamp moved from the edge of the dais right to the place where dignitaries were seated upon HIS request). All the speakers emphasized the importance of Pranayam and Dhyan and the great work being done by Art of Living and Guruji.

Some notable excerpts of the talk from the speakers:

Vishnuvardan, the star of Kannada cinema mentioned, “Guri muttuvudhakke, Guru Hinde Irabeku (If you have to reach your aim, you need to have a Guru behind you), But we are lucky because here is a Guru, Sri Sri who walks with us and helps us reach our aim.”

Thiruswamy of ISKCON, said, “Like how the lamp came to Guruji just as HE wished, the whole world today has come to HIM seeking HIS guidance. He commended relentless travel and efforts that Guruji puts in to spread the message of love and it was so visible in the Ashram” HE also recollected the characteristic composure of Guruji during SJC totally undaunted by the magnitude of the task. He also exhorted everyone to ensure that Bangalore PDS should be attended by not less than 1 Lakh people since it is not money nor title but the inner calm that brings happiness and this is possible only through the traditional spiritual pratices.

Then came the event of the evening – Guruji’s talk! He guided us through a meditation – linking it to the setting sun 3 Aum chants to bid a fond farewell to the the last sunset of the year and to welcome the Sun for the New Year. The next 10 minutes or so was pure bliss in meditation! and HE told all of us to retire and get ready to welcome the New Year at sunrise (making sure that sunrise time is not 8:00 AM 🙂 🙂 He stressed that as per Indian traditions, the day starts at sunrise and we dont have to wait till midnight to usher in the New Year.

His message for the New Year to all of us –

Accept both good and difficult times – learn from both good and difficult times that we went through during the previous year. Pray that we derive the Strength to face difficulties instead of wishing that there should not be any difficulties since we can learn a lot from difficulties too. We usually hold on to the difficult times in our minds instead of letting it pass after learning the lessons, just like the sugar cane which is sent to crushing unit – the juice (Knowledge) which needs to be held on to and the bagasse (difficulties) need to be dropped behind. He then asked us to question ourselves as to what we can do to the country, the world and to others, take a sankalpa for the New Year.

A Bharatnatyam performance followed and it was felicitaion time thereafter. The evening ended with delicious prasad and it was time to bid Bon Voyage to our beloved Gurudev who is leaving to Bad Antogast, Germany late in the night before which HE had an appointment to keep in the city. While it was retiring time for us, for HIM the day just began!

Wishing everyone a great New Year 2007 filled with joy and smiles.

PS:

  1. Did someone say that Divya (my daughter) was so lucky – first it was Art Excel and Now YES course in Ashram (though she was a few months underaged). Yes! Lucky Her! We never had these courses or God knows where I would have ended up
  2. Check the photo and carefully observe the circled face. Yes! it is Vishnu (my son) in the bottom circle and his cousin Abhay on the upper one, eagerly waiting for a handshake from HIM! on the New Year Eve – a photograph from the Indian Express.