Two over a Score – Still Going Strong

When it all Began...
When it all Began…

As someone said “Silver Jubilee” is a big chunk of time in anyone’s life and hitting a major milestone which is a part of it, en route is significant. You may forgive me for my own sense of astonishment that with all my quirks my marriage with Aparna has raced past the “22 years Old’ sign. I have no hesitation to acknowledge with deepest gratitude that this memorable journey was garnished and sweetened with Founder of The Art of Living , Pujya Gurudev HH Sri Sri Ravi Shankar‘s infinite and unconditional blessings.

Over the years
Over the years

Archies or Walmark couldn’t stock a card on their shelves to let you know how much I feel grateful for just being in our lives. So I ventured to make an attempt myself. Can I really describe it in mere words how special she is to me.No! My mind went blank and otherwise rich vocabulary appeared inadequate . This is a result of  countless backspaces/del buttons (my 17th Edit version is what has got published, says WordPress stats) as I was pretty sure there were better ways to appreciate & acknowledge what this amazing lady Aparna meant to me.

She Drives the Cart of Our lives
She Drives the Cart of Our lives

Friends and well wishers definitely congratulate me on the momentous occasion  but they recognize and give all the credits Aparna for this (rightly so). On the Financial year end, 31st March of 1991 at 12:21 pm when she walked on to a Mantap of a Wedding Hall in Dharwar, she never dreamt what she was getting into, but by God,she did win every single battle for us (me and children) and help us leap over every single obstacle, softening the landing absorbing al the pains, if any.

Many hundreds of my friends, their families and their friends, Children’s classmates and their parents would gladly testify the unbeatable and irresistible warmth of her hospitality – all this made commendable simply being a wonderful mother to 2 demanding children and a fussy “Me”

Thanks to her, we as a family couldn’t help but simply fall in love with her over and gain, every moment as she brought out the best in us. She definitely cannot be classified as being expressive in her love and but never once has anyone who has come across her, escaped her dragnet of love. That is Aparna for you.

The Extensions....
The Extensions….

On each birthday of my daughter (incidentally she was due on March 31st, on our wedding anniversary but missed it by 2 days to arrive on 3rd April) – My wish to her always, Grow up to be like your Amma, the one who is radiant and absorbent of light (not a stealer, I mean) and you will make me the most happiest father in the world. To my children I just always ask them to emulate the dignity of her ways and strength in her demeanour. And she is not the one to miss a single pulse, emotional upheavals or even a mood change and as always has a remedy that lightens and secures the environs.

She has been the core of ourexistence, and when I mentally step out, sit back and look at everything that she stands for, It is Pure Awe!!! At a stage in my life I couldn’t but help become passive recognizing the inspirational grandeur of this Woman and more my Friend than wife, Aparna I only thank the Divine for gifting me a soul mate who never once in this journey of 22 years made me feel alone.

All those moments above...
All those moments above…

No tribute is complete till I acknowledge her brilliant culinary skills – with almost any ingredient she has this ability today convert it to a Kingly meal – I have to say she has come a long way since 1991, when she did not even know that water is needed to cook rice in Cooker – on the days when I couldn’t cook it was always delicious Mosaranna (Curd rice) which was our staple diet.

Happy 22nd Anniversary Aparna, and Congratulations (and Kudos) for having made this possible. I (and Children and our friends) love you more than I have possibly written here. Thanks YOU for whatever you are.Love you loads and have a fantastic day! Wishing that we celebrate many many years of this day for ages to come and cross the 25 and 50 milestone (Yeah Brace up for the challenge 😉

If the Divine were to offer me a boon to change something in you, I would forgo that boon and continue to have you just as you are (except maybe requesting you to give that one extra serving of Ice-Cream or Panner Butter Masala)

We look up to you...
Where at you looking at? In fact, We look up to you…

With loads of love

Aparna

Here is the Song, a favourite of yours (for Old times sake)

Diye Jalte Hain Phool Khilte hain

Diye Jalte Hain, Phool Khilte hain,

Badi Mushkil se magar

Duniya main Dost Milte hain

When a group of close friends (See last pic  below) asked me to write this piece (of course giving their own 2-bits to add to my half-bit), I could not but help hum the above number (a famous Kishore-da song from Namak Haram). Without too much of an ado… Here we go, addressed directly to that Special Person….

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Do we call you a best friend? No way. You are beyond ranking in a scale of “Worst to Best”  Though there could be many adjectives to describe you, it would be gross injustice to you since our vocab fails miserably. Looking beyond the Wren & Martin Grammar but borrowing from it – it is actually the “Verb” that defines this wonderful feeling that you bring into our lives. So many things that you “Just do” is simply defines you.

For a moment imagining the unimaginable – had we allowed things to run a natural course, do we have even noticed our existences? I guess not and today, we can emphatically state “it is a cinch that it would have been a great loss”. But destiny and of course, His Holiness Pujya Gurudev Sri Sri Ravi Shankar and Art of Living had His own Divine plans for all of us.

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Those moments of Trials and Tribulations, some very challenging and some not so much, those moments of Euphoria when we achieved our goals (call it surpassing the goals) – Parse them grammatically and we always had a common and only “Conjunction” which is “You”

Keeping the team mood upbeat  during setbacks,  to raise the performance pitch, to overcome them – Result : every one of us have a proud Bio-data which has no bullet point with ‘Setback’ against it. This is what you managed in “your” small ways.

Seen Not so Friendly Version of  this too
Seen Not so Friendly Version of this too

On the other side too, ensuring that we keep our fleeting, floating feet firmly on the ground during those Euphoric moments was another of your virtue. Reminding us quite often than not, that Job is not over yet, and Euphoria just as setbacks like everything has to pass. Salutes to this incredible sense of Equanimity, not often found around us today. Another of the plus with you, it was not your viewpoint or mine, it by and large has to be the larger world’s viewpoint (or alteast as much as one can)

Another Perspective - Not always what seem straight to us
Another Perspective – Not always what seem straight to us

Foodies, that the gang is, we cannot forget those literally “relishing” moments – the various restaurants that we all ate out- those loving and painstakingly picked items that you chose for the gang from the menu – done with amazing grace. While we struggled with those exotic names on a-la-carte, here you were – the Connoisseur who ensured our taste buds got a treat like never before.

A special mention for being available with your supportive shoulders through the think and thin, with a tissue of empathy to wipe tears of insult and disappointments. In the short span of our lives and even shorter span of being together, you have just been there “unconditionally”, a thanks would be gross injustice and out of place.

For many Appy, Aparna, Aparazzi,  knowing you we are sure you must have touched 1000s of people’s lives and each has their own way to identify you, but for a privileged few of us – it was and is the joy of you being

Just You

Moments to Cherish - Well Deserved
Moments to Cherish – Well Deserved

Thanks a million dearest one for being part of our lives. Love you loads for just what you are.

Wishing you a very happy birthday – For someone very very special, May your Birthday be blessed with everything God wants to give you! Not everyone is lucky enough to have someone as special as you in one’s life… We’re a lucky few! May beauty and happiness surround you today and beyond. We hope your Birthday is awesome, wonderful, full of love and laughter… just like you! Our prayers that there are so many more to come and each better than the best before.

 From
From rest of us to the 1st person on Left
From rest of us to the 1st person on Left
 ||Jai Gurudev||
 

PS: (Parting Shot) from Ashwin: Some would think I am crazy because you are just my Pug 😉  in simpler terms you are my pet who deserve a Hug 😉 😉

3Ps of Blogging – Purpose, Polish and Publish

A purpose firmly established decides the impact on the kind of blogger that you are, the contents you provide, the update frequency and maintenance of the same. A synergy of these activities would drive you towards the established purpose of blogging.

Establish a clear purpose : Common mistakes any blogger do (atleast early on) is not to define a specific purpose. Decide at the earliest, purpose of your blogging and ensure that you build relevance and a good fit as you continue building over it, lest it become an odd brick in an otherwise Architectural Marvel

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Else what? A big woolly Mess. What Else 🙂 You have a messy place. To draw an analogy it would be a miner’s nightmare. They hunt for Gold (very expensive, just like contents in your blog) but a messy dredging is unpleasant.

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The Reverse Possibility: Blogging for a Purpose

Be honest to yourself when you answer this question. If it is for money, so be it. Be clear! In any case the blogs would reveal the purpose (a clutter of Adsense Keywords in your blog content is a big give-away). By the way, there is nothing to be ashamed if it is for money – it is your personal space and efforts, none can grudge you this purpose.

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Now that importance of purpose is realized, the task is easy if you started the blog with a purpose – say, for promoting a business, or a person, or for critiquing – Here the goal of blogging is predetermined, the contents and update frequencies get defined by the purpose itself – for e.g if it is promoting business, it is pretty sure that it may not do anything with the blog itself but to do draw attention of target audience and channelizing that interest. This is where SEO pressures rules the roost and define the contents too. Similar is the case with any blogging that has a clearly defined purpose.

We have yet another purpose for blogging, which predominantly is where AOL bloggers can be classified. Blogging for hobby. It is generally assumed that it can be “free for all”, “no-hold barred”, “stress-free” blogging and has no purpose. Let’s get this clear. If there is no purpose for putting your thoughts on paper (or on a blogsite) it has no business to exist in the first place. Determine and brand even a hobby blogging – Humour, Current Affairs, Health or alternately I can suggest an easiest branding – Art of Living or His Holiness Pujya Gurudev Sri Sri Ravi Shankar. For one, you have so much that you can write about. Added to it, it can get you a lot of traffic (AOL is a world by itself).

This brings a new dimension and purpose to your blog. From Blogging as hobby, it now gets positioned as Blogging for Others/Someone (I will call it AOL, hereafter). Again, writing something on Gurudev or AOL doesn’t ensure success, it has to be formatted, designed and executed for Success.

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The Goals, Objectives and Values that represents AOL has to be factored before we Publish the blog.
The next few steps are specifically in respect of Hobby Bloggers writing about AOL/Gurudev. http://justconnect.artofliving.org does this for approved bloggers and the underlying philosophy can be adopted and applicable to your individual blogs too
Having established the purpose of a blog, it now needs to be reached out to the world viz Marketing. It involves two components

1) Identifying target audience
2) What is Written

This is a double whammy. Audience is automatically decided by “What” is written or you have to specifically write keeping in mind your target audience.

As any marketing person would know : Reaching out in any manner including Advertising is an aerial attack, but the war is won only on the ground. You don’t win readers or traffic to your blog from aerial attacks. You have to win them on the ground.

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Even in the age of internet, products (your blogs) are bought and sold online only if the customer (reader) has some advance knowledge about it. To explain better, in any modern war the Air Force is used to hit key targets, destroy capabilities and soften the enemy’s forces. But the war is won only when soldiers on the ground move in and capture lands, kingdoms, enemies or whatever their target was. No matter how superior an air force a battle is never won from the air. Marketing a blog (or for that matter Social Media itself) is similar to an air force, an aerial attack. No war can ever be won through just Marketing. It may soften the adversary, score a few major points or victories, win a few battles, but it will never win the war unless there is action and stuff on the ground. Therefore, Having Exciting Stuff to aspire for on the ground is the first step and a good start.

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About what is Written, or having a good stuff now calls for a dream or a vision for your blog itself. This also brands your blog and also entails being able to see the “finish line”. Blog on a whole has to have a vision and mission to be accomplished by each individual article/post needs to be aligned to this vision. In other words, all members in a group can share a “mission” but all may not have the same “vision”. It helps if the your blog can outline the vision and the finish line and ensure each post on it subscribes and aligns with it. (Extend this logic to a group blogging site, like http://www.artoflivingsblog.com or http://www.artoflivingsecrets.com) In order to achieve this, we need to have a STRATEGY.

Strategy is a much abused term. In cricket you will hear the commentator frequently talk about strategies, that is pure rubbish. The strategy in cricket is simple: Bat, ball, wicket, 11 players, bowling batting, boundary lines, pitch and higher run scorer wins. Simple! These don’t change every over or after every four or six as commentators keep asking. What can be changed is “Tactics” based on a particular situation of advantage or disadvantage that forces us to publish a post on the blog. However to start the game we need to adopt the best tactics that will suit our strategy once we have decided on the “WHAT I WRITE”. Once those tactics mature and keep producing good results they can be hammered to advantage. As marketing guru Al Ries says: Tactic is the nail, strategy is the hammer.

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Let me demonstrate the difference using the example of India Against Corruption in its earlier avatar. Arvind Kejriwal’s overall strategy was change in fighting corruption through Lokpal bill. Tactic was hunger strikes, gheraos and building local chapters of IACs in many metros. But when the tactics failed he decided he will go political. His strategy Lokpal failed. With a new political strategy, he has now made strange un-measureable and unrealistic “whats” like Direct people rule, laws to be made after direct consultation with people, prices to be decided by people, no unpopular laws blah blah etc. It’s destined to fail. Do his tactics back up his strategy? No. His current tactic is to expose corruption of individuals, allegations against top names and politicians. There is no match between his strategy and tactics. Those are, of course, his stated strategies. If there are certain hidden strategies, we don’t know. While he may manage to expose some individuals, his political strategy is destined to fail. It’s like George Bush saying: “We are not doing well in Afghanistan, let’s go bomb Iraq” – Our blog should not be like Aghanistan/Iraq bombing cited above.

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Now that the Strategy and Tactics are executed and first finish line is reached a newer finish line will get defined. It’s an on-going journey, an on-going process. It then becomes easier to define how, when and where our blogging journey leads or any course correction is needed.

This Blog of mine : Originally Published on http://justconnect.artofliving.org/blogging-tips-3ps-purpose-polish-publish/