Coral, Coffee, and Chaos: Celebrating 35 Years

Dearest Aparna,

As the calendar turns to March 31st once again, I find myself looking at you and wondering where the last thirty-five years have gone. They say time flies when you’re having fun, but in our case, it has flown because you’ve made every moment feel like a living dream. From that starry-eyed day in 1991 to this milestone of our 35th wedding anniversary (they said it is called Coral Anniversary, but who cares anyway), the journey has been nothing short of magical. Looking back, I realize that while I might be the one writing these words, it is your grace and grit that have written our story.

Candid? I don’t think so

I often think back to that August 15th evening of 1984 when we first met. If the Divine were to appear before me today and offer a chance to rewind and chart a different course, I would ask for the exact same journey all over again. I wouldn’t change a single thing. You have been the anchor of my life, the pilot of our flight, and the perfect fit in a way that even mechanical engineering couldn’t replicate. While I am often the motor-mouth, overtly expressing everything, you have always been the calming presence—the one who ensures that even an empty glass looks overflowing to those around you.

Next to Anay, this place give you most Joy

Our life together has seen its share of ups and downs, abundance and scarcity, but none of that mattered because I had you walking alongside me. You are the one who brings out the best in me and makes me want to be better every single day. I see your unshakeable loyalty, your selfless nature, and the way you never frown when someone seeks your help. You are a Seva Warrior in the truest sense, a fantastic soul who lives every moment with such clarity of priority. Whether it was the organising strength you showed during my pilgrimages to Sabarimala or the way you handled difficult decisions by simply telling me to “do what lets you sleep peacefully,” your wisdom has always been our compass.

35 years and it is still the same
Love is not gazing into each other’s eyes but both looking out in the same direction

Looking at Divya and Vishnu, I see the best parts of you in them. You weren’t just a mother to our biological children but a no-nonsense guide to so many manasik children, as well. From the early days when you were a cook wondering if pressure-cooking rice needed water, to today, where you could give any chef a run for their money, your growth and persistence have been exemplary.

I can never forget the first time Gulab Jamoon was Made

You instilled values in them through bedtime stories and constant care, ensuring that Life is a celebration for our entire extended family. You are the heart of our home and the light of our lives.

Our Biggest Gifts

And then, of course, there is the little light who has redefined what home feels like for both of us. When Anay arrived on October 11, 2022, he didn’t just join our family; he shifted the entire axis of our world. Watching you transition into the role of a grandmother has been one of the most beautiful chapters of our thirty-five years together. It is as if all the love and wisdom you gathered over the decades found a brand-new, tiny vessel to pour into. Anay has brought a sense of playfulness back into our lives that I didn’t realize we were missing. He is a constant reminder of the wonder in small things, teaching us to slow down and see the world through his curious, bright eyes.

Does anything bring more happiness than this?

In fact, our entire week now revolves around a new kind of countdown. We find ourselves looking forward to every Friday evening with a restless, childlike excitement because we know it brings Anay back into our arms. The house feels different the moment he walks in; the air seems lighter and the walls echo with a joy that only a grandchild can provide. Those weekends spent watching him grow, hearing his laughter, and seeing him bond with you are the moments where time truly stands still for us. Sharing the joy of being his grandparents with you is the perfect crowning jewel on our thirty-five years of marriage.

Your expression says it all

Our Sunday mornings—filled with Uppittu, Dosey, and filter coffee—remain my favorite ritual. They are a reminder that while the world outside is loud, our world is built on these quiet, sacred moments of togetherness. You are the woman who is fixed, robust, and capable of restoring any fallen ones around her. You have sacrificed comforts to keep us happy, and you have loved me just as I am, never trying to change my idiosyncrasies, even when I know I’m a handful.

Aparna, they say that after thirty-five years, things might become routine, but with you, it only gets better, like fine wine. You are still the person I cannot live without. I am so lucky that of all the fishes in the ocean, I caught you. Thank you for thirty-five years of tolerating me with a smile and for being the wonderful human being that you are. May the Divine and Gurudev continue to bless you with health and joy in abundance. I am, and will always be, the luckiest man to have you by my side.

His Blessings and Grace – Every moment of our Journey
The Anchor

As always a song dedicated to you on this occasion

Rudram & Satsang – When Mind Meets Mantras

There is a specific kind of electricity that fills the air when the Pandits from the Art of Living Gurukul begin to chant. Having been part of hundreds of Art of Living Rudra Puja & Satsangs, Trust me when I say this, It isn’t just sound; it is a tectonic shift in the room’s vibration. Conducted generally in the presence of a Swamiji/Sadhvi of Art of Living, the Rudra Puja is less of a ritual and more of a cosmic cleansing. Participating in this sacred ceremony, followed by a soulful Satsang led by our team (the cherry on top), proved to be an experience of sublime elevation that words struggle to fully capture.

With Swami Virupaksha ji of Art of Living

The heart of the Puja lies in the Sri Rudram, a Vedic hymn with two distinct movements that mirror the rhythm of life itself. In the phase of Namakam, the repetitive salutations recognize the Divine in everything—from the beautiful to the fierce—serving as a profound exercise in non-duality. This is seamlessly followed by Chamakam, where the chant shifts to a list of prayers for human needs, acknowledging that spiritual liberation requires a body and world in harmony.

With Sadhvi Nityabodha ji of Art of Living

As the resonance of the mantras peaks, the Abhisheka begins. The most mesmerizing element is the Dhaara, a continuous, unbroken stream of water and milk poured over the Shiva Linga. This flow represents the movement of consciousness, reminding us that our awareness should remain centered and steady amidst the chaos of daily life. Offerings of honey for sweetness, curd for prosperity, and sandalwood for mental clarity are layered into the ceremony, each adding a biological and spiritual resonance to the atmosphere.

Swami Paramanand of Art of Living performing Panchamrita Abhisheka

The Puja follows a precise energetic map, starting with the Sankalpa, where we drop our intentions into the field of consciousness. Through the Mahanyasam, the Pandits effectively turn their bodies into vessels for the Divine vibration. The entire process culminates in the Arati, the final offering where the external light serves as a powerful reminder of the light within.

Alankara Post Rudram
Alankara
Aarti
Vaibhav ji Performing Aarti

Beyond the spiritual masterpiece of the ritual, the impact on the human nervous system is scientifically profound. The mathematical precision of the Sanskrit syllables acts as a sonic scrub for the mind. These specific Vedic accents create a resonance in the cranial cavity that synchronizes the brain hemispheres, leading to a state where you are awake but in a relaxed, meditative, or restful condition. It is a state of flow where daily mental chatter—the Vruttis—is shattered, replaced by a deep, centered stillness.

It reaches a crescendo as we transitioned from the ancient rigor of the Gurukul chants into the Satsang. If the Puja was the deep-cleaning of a vessel, the Satsang was filling that vessel with nectar. The silence earned during the meditation exploded into music, locking in the elevated state we had cultivated. We didn’t just sing; we integrated the peace we had found.

Post Rudra Puja Satsang

This journey from the depths of Vedic silence to the peaks of collective celebration left us in a state of sublime elevation—a peak of consciousness that stays with you long after the last bell has rung.

With Pandits Subbaraya ji and Ganapati ji trained in Art of Living Gurukul – Their amazingly coordinated and perfect Chants makes our day
Satsangis in a Rudra Puja and Satsang

Ghost at the Door: Fear or Faith

Raghav stood in the middle of the party hall, a mental clipboard clutched to his chest like a shield. Outside, the Bengaluru evening was soft and still, but inside Raghav’s head, a storm was raging. He was an organizer for a Bhajan Sandhya, yet he wasn’t feeling the divine bliss; he was feeling the “what-ifs.” He had turned a spiritual gathering into a military operation, spending weeks locked in combat with phantoms that didn’t exist outside his own skull.

Unreal Devils of Own Mind

He had spent his days meticulously constructing catastrophes out of thin air. He worried that the audience may not appreciate this or critique that, percussion player might lose the beat or a singer sings out of tune, convinced that such minor slips would invite public mockery and make it difficult for him to continue living in the community. He imposed a rigid, suffocating schedule and spreadsheet cells-like boundaries on what could one sing and what photos can be placed, where should every lamp be placed and so on. He mistook these internal scripts for external reality, failing to realize that the world was far too busy worrying about its own reflection to notice the slight tilt of his floral garlands.

As the singers began a soulful chants & bhajans and the room filled with bliss of Bhakti, Raghav remained paralyzed. He didn’t sit; he didn’t sing. Instead, he kept peeping out of the door, checking the corridor for imaginary problems as if the universe were plotting his downfall. He was standing before a door he was certain was locked—the door to true spiritual connection—never realizing he hadn’t even bothered to turn the handle because he had already envisaged the rejection behind it.

The cold, refreshing truth finally hit him when he saw an elderly woman in the front row, eyes closed and lost in the music. She wasn’t judging the acoustics or his clipboard; she was simply existing in the moment. Raghav realized his brain was wired for survival rather than happiness, inventing “devils” to hide from because the neutral truth felt too vulnerable. He took a breath and labeled his thoughts as passing scripts rather than absolute truths. He failed to chose action over analysis and to sit down to join the chorus, so that the ghosts can vanish.

Bhakti is Bliss-Free from Boundaries

The world was wide, open, and Raghav refused to stop being his own ghost.

A friend not connected to Art of Living but who participated in the Bhajan Sandhya sent these lines – a perfect depiction of the state of his mind and the prescription thereof.

मन के शोर में उलझा था मैं, व्यर्थ के जाल बुने, अनहोनी के डर से मैंने, अपने ही शत्रु चुने। हाथ में कागज, दिल में धड़कन, द्वार पे थी मेरी नजर, भूल गया था उस ईश्वर को, जिसे ढूँढने आया था इधर।

वो नियम बनाए, वो सीमाएँ बांधी, जैसे कोई जंग हो, भूल गया कि भक्ति वही, जो पूरी तरह बेरंग हो। जब देखा उस बूढ़ी माँ को, जो सुध-बुध अपनी खोई थी, तब जाना कि मेरी चिंता, बस एक झूठी लोरी थी।

छोड़ दिया वो कागज़ मैंने, छोड़ दिया हर एक हिसाब, मन का पर्दा हटा तो देखा, खुला हुआ है नया अध्याय। अब न कोई डर बाहर है, न भीतर कोई साया है, सच्चा भजन तो वही है राघव, जो तूने खुद में पाया है।

To be an instrument is to realize that you are a vessel, and a vessel can only pour what it contains. If your internal world is a landscape of chaos and tension, then stress is the only currency you have to offer those around you, no matter how much you might try to mask it with kind words. True service isn’t about draining yourself to the point of depletion; it is about the law of overflow. You must cultivate a surplus of peace and happiness within yourself so that your contribution to the world becomes an effortless radiation rather than a forced chore. That is Art of Living

Drop the Clipboard-Enjoy the Moment

When you prioritize your own inner clarity, self-care stops being a luxury and becomes a fundamental responsibility to the people you love. An out-of-tune instrument cannot produce a harmonious melody, and an empty cup cannot quench anyone’s thirst. By guarding your intake and keeping a constant inventory of your emotional state, you ensure that what spills over from your life into the lives of others is worth receiving. Ultimately, the quality of your presence is your greatest gift, and filling yourself with light is the only way to truly illuminate the path for others.

Pujya Gurudev Sri Sri Ravi Shankar ji often reminds followers to look in the mirror every morning and give themselves a cheap smile. If your smile is expensive and your anger is cheap, you are an instrument of stress. He advocates for meditation and Sudarshan Kriya as the tuning process—daily practices that clear the dust from the instrument so that you can radiate your true nature, which he defines as Love, Joy, and Peace.


Post-ScriptThe Mic Drop Moment for us

What a turnaround! It was a classic case of “Man proposes, God disposes.” Despite all the gatekeeping and the laundry list of conditions, the universe (or a very insistent lady) clearly had other plans. It’s often those who try hardest to control the environment who end up looking the most surprised when things unfold naturally. There is a certain poetic irony in someone being so worried about opposition only for a total stranger to be the one to break the rules immediately.

Upon insistence of so called “problematic” audience – A background that we Love

True spiritual power often operates on a level that completely bypasses the friction of human logistics. There are moments when the collective energy of a Satsang or a sacred gathering becomes so immense that it simply swallows up an individual’s administrative anxiety, making the usual rules feel suddenly small. When a guest with no official ties makes an unexpected request, they effectively sidestep the internal devils of the gatekeepers putting him in a difficult spot; the conditions guy finds it nearly impossible to argue with a sincere outsider without creating a disruptive scene that would break the very sanctity he’s trying to protect. For those watching with faith, this isn’t just a lucky break—it is divine synchronicity. It serves as a sharp, beautiful reminder that the Guru’s presence is never a prisoner of human permission or red tape.

Never worry about Opposition. When even a complete stranger insists on Gurudev’s presence, it’s clear who is actually running the show! Despite all careful planning and conditions, the guest of honor found His own way into the room. Some things are just meant to be, no one can stop that. A gentle reminder for life –